The Alpha Woman Case(part 3)

8 things to know before living with the alpha female

 

It’s important to keep in mind that dating each other, and living together are two very different things. Even if you two have weekly sleepovers, the physical move of ALL of your belongings means something new.

Here are some helpful hints to look over before moving in with your Alpha Female girlfriend:

1. If anyone’s moving, it’s probably you.

She likes her apartment; she likes her neighborhood; she likes her things…right where they are. If we’re being honest, it’s probably you who is gonna be doing the moving. Here’s to hoping that you’re the kind of guy who doesn’t mind switching up the scenery: a new apartment will be fun!

2. She will need some alone time…especially in the beginning.

Because Alphas are so independent, she has gotten used to living alone. Sharing “home” space with you might be difficult at first, so try to give her a bit of alone time in the house whenever you can until she adjusts to joint-living quarters. Don’t ask what she does when you’re not there. We all have our own “single” behavior.

3. She has a “side of the bed.”

Even if she hasn’t lived with a boyfriend recently, I assure you that she has a specific side of the bed that she likes. Let’s just hope that it is not the same as yours because I’ll tell ya right now: “your side” will be switching real soon.

4. She will wear the pants.

Here is a word of advice: you’re gonna need to stake out some space early on in the game. Alphas like to run the show so the closet is hers, the bedroom is hers, the bathroom is hers…hell, even the kitchen is hers. Just politely shove your shit in with hers. She’ll get used to it.

5. Don’t be surprised if her neighbors don’t know her.

Alphas are busy ladies! Between her time-consuming job and gym workouts, to busy weekend social events, she never really got around to baking cookies or pies for her new neighbors. She’ll give a polite smile or wave here and there but if you’re looking for the latest update on neighborhood or apartment building gossip – go ask someone else.

6. She has a morning routine.

Her alarm goes off at 7:42 and she leaves the house at 8:36, giving her exactly 54 minutes to shower, blow dry her hair, apply makeup, change, eat breakfast, and run out of the house – coffee in hand. She probably won’t be adjusting her schedule anytime soon because this is just how she’s always done it.

7. She won’t tiptoe around the house.

If your Alpha is just discovering a new habit of yours now that you’re living together, and she doesn’t like it: you will know. She’s not gonna sugar coat how she feels, and she sees no reason to bottle things up. She thinks that being passive aggressive is pointless – and it is!

8. Yes, she will eventually give…a little.

It may seem like all of the adjustments are coming from your end, but try to remind yourself of this: Alphas don’t waste their time lolly-gagging around with “filler-boyfriends,” so moving in with you already means that she’s serious about you. Women with small, or big personalities tend to be better at adapting to change than men are. Give it some time. She’ll give in, and she’ll grow to love having your stinky socks in her underwear drawer.

 

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The Alpha Woman Case(part 2)

8 qualities every alpha female should look for in a man

 

The prototypical Alpha Female, if matched with an Alpha Male, sounds like a recipe for disaster. She would not like the competition that this male would bring to the relationship; rather, she would look for someone more submissive.

The submissive man, also known as the Omega, would typically allow his Alpha to take charge in every situation: in social gatherings, at work, and in the bedroom. Or, let’s consider a Beta, who is essentially the Alpha’s sidekick and agrees with her every move, and supports her as the ultimate decision maker in the relationship.

This makes for a difficult undertaking as a matchmaker. Which man would be the best fit for an Alpha Female? The answer is not a simple Beta, or Omega. Rather, it should be a combination of qualities that she needs in order to flourish and shine. Here are some of the most important things you Wonder-Woman-Alpha-Badass-Ladies should remember to look for:

1. He gives you space to spread your wings.

You, as an Alpha Female, cherish your independence. You are extremely self-sustainable in every sense of the description: you are strong, resourceful, and solve problems with ease. You also grow and excel most when you are given the space to do so on your own. Therefore, your your man should allow you to tackle problems without his help, but at the same time…

2. He recognizes when to be your rock.

Hey, Alpha Ladies, you may not know when exactly to ask for help, which is why he will know when to give it. If he steps in too soon, you may recede, but if he doesn’t step in at all, you will be left floundering. Your man pushing you to fly on your own, but also being the wind beneath your wings is key to some balance in your relationship.

3. He doesn’t get jealous.

This is a big one. You are powerful, attractive, and independent. A man who shares your excitement and pride when you are promoted, is a guy with balls. Similarly, when you two are out, he will smile at the men who continuously hit on you – not be intimidated, but empowered. Know why? At the end of the night, the only person who is gonna be in that bed with you, is him.

4. He is willing to be both your student and your teacher.

Naturally, you enjoy being the top dog; the teacher; the boss; the leader. Your business card may read HBIC: Head Bitch In Charge. But allowing him to play both the student and the teacher role is important, and though you may have trouble allowing him to take on the teacher role- try. You can’t know everything! And having a man who has the ability to stand up to you may even humble you a bit.

5. He knows when to shut up.

Although you Super Woman ladies may want everyone to think that you have your shit together 24/7, ya don’t. And chances are, your man will be there when a meltdown takes place. Some men will be scared off, and some will fight back with overbearing words, but the man for which you should keep your eyes peeled, are the ones who just sit back and let it happen: the type of man who will calmly be sitting on the couch during a Twister and say, “I think it’s sexy when you’re flustered. He knows you can handle it. He knows you can fix it. And he’s actually attracted to it.

6. But also knows when to speak up.

He lets you scream about your recently destroyed table, or about your incompetent assistant, but if you start screaming at him, he doesn’t take it like an injured little puppy either. His patience may urk you more, but this is a GIFT. If he can handle you at your worst, he deserves you at your best.

7. He has some thick skin.

Alpha Females aren’t known to be the most nurturing or sensitive of the crew, which would lead to some problems if your man doesn’t have thick skin. That doesn’t mean he needs to be robotic, desensitized, or heartless, it just means that he can handle your assertiveness and blunt nature.

8. He dreams big.

You live by the quote, “I dream big for those who can’t, but so does he. He’s not interested in just being a sidekick to your big life plans, but he isn’t expecting you to give up your life for his. If you both have goals, ambitions, hopes, and dreams, you will be able to grow together. As Henry Ford once said, “Coming together is a beginning; keeping together is progress; working together is success

The Alpha Woman Case(part 1)

7 things to know before dating an alpha female:

1. She will challenge you.

Not only will she challenge you, but she probably won’t forfeit too easily; she will be persistent and insistent. She will debate with you over anything from de Blasio’s new policy, to the actual color of a tennis ball (green? or yellow?), and she expects to win. Some advice: challenge her back.

2. She don’t need a man to make it happen.

If you’re the kind of guy who loves to feel needed all the time, this gal just isn’t for you. She is fiercely independent and prides herself on being self-reliant and self-sufficient: Miss Outta My Way. The great thing about being with an Alpha is that you won’t feel tied down because she doesn’t need you, she wants you.

3. She will be straight-up with you.

If your Alpha has a problem, you will most likely know about it. You can’t expect her to be too gentle with her words, so hopefully you’ll understand that she isn’t trying to be mean – this is just the way she is. But, hey, you won’t need to deal with the typical passive-aggressive bullshit that most girls pull!

4. She’s a do-er, not a talk-er.

Alpha’s take action, so if she says she’s gonna do something – you bet your ass, she’s gonna do it. She probably expects the same in return: if you say you’re gonna do something, you sure as hell better follow through. And if ya don’t, she will…so don’t miss the boat, Mister. Hop on!

5. She doesn’t wear her Alpha on her sleeve.

Chocolates? Flowers? One of those Hallmark cards that have a cute pun about how much you love her? Yeah, these things will probably make her vom a little in her mouth before it makes her heart melt. Not that she’s a total cynic, but she’s used to the doting – the lovey dovey crap that every girl wants – and in order to get her attention, you’ll need to come up with something a little more original.

6. She’s not easy.

If you think loving an Alpha Female is easy, you’re wrong. She’s difficult, competitive, and probably complicated. She gets off from being free, being in power, and will step on any man who gets in her way. She is, in fact, ab. So. Lute. Ly. Impossible.

7. But she’s definitely worth it.

Her my-way-or-the-highway attitude and complete self-competence will, at times, make you feel small. Instead, let it empower you. Let it strengthen your weaknesses, and let it feed your drive to success. She will help you learn about yourself; she will push you; she will change you; she will impact you. Overall, she will make you a better man.